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Free printable · From The Wisdom Map

Your Wisdom Map

Eleven questions about one part of your life, seen from eleven angles.

Download the Map pages

Free PDF · print it, or fill it in on screen.

How it works

Choose one situation in your life that feels unsettled right now: your live question. Each Map page looks at it through one idea from the book, with two or three plain questions and an example answer. Read in order, your answers become your map. Fill it in by hand or on screen.

Under every page, three questions

  1. What do I actually know?

    What happened, what was said, what this gives me and what it costs, as opposed to what I fear or hope.

  2. What am I adding?

    The story, the rule, or the assumption I've laid on top.

  3. What could I learn next?

    A conversation to have, a number to check, a small thing to try.

The eleven Map pages

Part I · Self

How a role becomes who you are

  1. 1A role, or a rule?
  2. 2The value under the plan
  3. 3What happened, and what I added
  4. 4What I do, what I bring, what I'd miss
Part II · Love

What happens between what you need, what you say, and what another person actually does

  1. 5Appreciated, or understood?
  2. 6Hope and evidence
  3. 7A yes I chose, or a yes to keep the peace
Part III · Meaning

How you decide what is worth pursuing, keeping, changing, or leaving unfinished

  1. 8The goal and its promise
  2. 9Happy, meaningful, rich
  3. 10The cost of staying, the cost of changing
  4. 11A loss, a value, or a life I'm imagining

Final page Reading your map

A page from the Map

Map page 1The Wisdom Map

A role, or a rule?

Look at your live question. Somewhere inside it is a role you play: the one who handles it, pays for it, organizes it, keeps the peace, or knows the answer.

  1. What do people count on you for in this situation?

  2. Which of those expectations has someone actually said out loud, and which have you assumed?

  3. If you stepped back from one part of it, what are you afraid it would say about you?

Example“I'm the one who plans every family holiday. My mother asked me to host Thanksgiving once, nine years ago. Nobody has asked since; I just do it. If I stopped, I'm afraid it would look like I don't care.”

For a friend

Know a woman weighing a decision?

Sometimes the right question helps more than advice. Choose one that might help her see her situation from a new angle, and send it to her in your own messages.

These pages come from The Wisdom Map.

The book takes you on a deeper journey through three essential parts of life: who you are, how you love, and what gives your life meaning.

About the book

These are reflection pages, not a test or a diagnosis.

Share the Map

Some insights are worth passing along.

Know a woman carrying a question like this? Send her the Map pages.

Your message

I thought of you when I saw these. Ask yourself: If you stepped back, what are you afraid it would say about you?

Card: Ask yourself. If you stepped back, what are you afraid it would say about you?
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